Paper Etiquette

There are so many ins and outs of wedding stationery etiquette. We frequently get asked many of these questions, so below you will find a list of the most common questions and answers to help guide you through your invitation process. Click one of the titles below to expand for more information. If there are any questions that aren’t answered here, feel free to email us at daisyprintcompany@gmail.com.

Invitations


Wedding invitations should be sent out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. If you’re planning on having a destination wedding, or a wedding on a holiday weekend you should plan on sending them out at least 10-12 weeks in advance to allow your guests to plan for transportation and accommodations.




Save the Dates


Save the dates should be sent out so guests have a chance to prepare for travel and accommodations. They are usually sent out 9-12 months in advance. Every guest that receives a save the date needs to also receive a formal invitation. If you send someone a save the date and they notify you that they can’t make it, you don’t need to send them an invitation. Unless it is a very close friend or family member that would like to have it as a keepsake.




Response Cards


Your “respond by” date for your response cards should be 4-6 weeks before your wedding date. This will give you 2-3 weeks to follow up with the stragglers who didn’t respond and get your final guest count to your caterer by their deadline.





Timing

Invitation Wording

Hosting Information


When wording your invitation there are several different options depending on your situation. See some below samples for the most commonly used options: [ Married Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Divorced/Remarried Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
and
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew James Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Bride and Groom Hosting with Family ] Together with their families
Sarah Elizabeth Robinson
and
William David Kennedy
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage




Adult Only Reception


If you prefer your reception to be adults only, there are a few ways to tactfully handle wording. Proper etiquette would start with who you addressed the envelope to. If the children’s names weren’t included, it would be assumed they’re not invited. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this. You can have a small line included on your invitation that simply says “adult reception following”. If you are still worried that some of your guests may not catch on, you can include a line on your response card that let’s you fill in the number of people you have invited for that household. “We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor.”





Postage

Invitations


Wedding invitations should be sent out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. If you’re planning on having a destination wedding, or a wedding on a holiday weekend you should plan on sending them out at least 10-12 weeks in advance to allow your guests to plan for transportation and accommodations.




Save the Dates


Save the dates should be sent out so guests have a chance to prepare for travel and accommodations. They are usually sent out 9-12 months in advance. Every guest that receives a save the date needs to also receive a formal invitation. If you send someone a save the date and they notify you that they can’t make it, you don’t need to send them an invitation. Unless it is a very close friend or family member that would like to have it as a keepsake.




Response Cards


Your “respond by” date for your response cards should be 4-6 weeks before your wedding date. This will give you 2-3 weeks to follow up with the stragglers who didn’t respond and get your final guest count to your caterer by their deadline.





Additional Wording

Additional Cards


Additional cards are generally used when the ceremony and reception are held at two separate locations. You will need to list the reception venue and address. This is also a good place to list a wedding website if you have one. Another good use for additional cards could be for accommodations, directions, or wedding events. However, keep in mind, you do not want to include your wedding registry anywhere on your invitation suite, this should be reserved for your wedding website or bridal shower invitations.




Response Cards


Response cards need to include your respond by date for your guests, a line to enter in their names, food choices, if you choose to have a plated dinner, and accept(s) and decline(s) options.





Addressing

Ordering and Assembly

Outer Envelopes


When preparing your addresses for your envelopes, be sure to follow these rules of etiquette. Spell out roads, streets, states and anything that could possibly be abbreviated. Use formal names, no nicknames. Below are some samples for how to handle addressing names: [ Married Couple ] Mr. and Mrs. Christopher King [ Unmarried Couple ] Mr. Jonathan Hunter and Miss Hannah White [ Family ] Mr. and Mrs. Christopher King and Family OR Mr. and Mrs. Christopher King Miss Annabelle King [ Single Person with Guest ] Mr. Stephen Thompson and Guest




Inner Envelopes


If you are including inner envelopes, this is where you would place any additional guest or children that are invited with the main guests. The outer envelope would be only for the main guest/couple. Below are some samples for how to handle addressing names: [ Outer Envelope ] Mr. and Mrs. Christopher King [ Inner Envelope ] Mr. and Mrs. King (formal) OR Sarah and Christopher (informal) [ Outer Envelope ] Mr. and Mrs. Christopher King [ Inner Envelope ] Mr. and Mrs. King
Miss Annabelle King (formal)
OR
Annabelle (informal) [ Outer Envelope ] Mr. Jonathan Hunter and Miss Hannah White [ Inner Envelope ] Mr. Hunter and Miss White [ Outer Envelope ] Mr. Stephen Thompson [ Inner Envelope ] Mr. Thompson and Guest




Response Envelope


The response envelope generally comes back to the bride or whoever is collecting the responses. Don’t forget to place a stamp on it!





Invitations


Wedding invitations should be sent out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. If you’re planning on having a destination wedding, or a wedding on a holiday weekend you should plan on sending them out at least 10-12 weeks in advance to allow your guests to plan for transportation and accommodations.




Save the Dates


Save the dates should be sent out so guests have a chance to prepare for travel and accommodations. They are usually sent out 9-12 months in advance. Every guest that receives a save the date needs to also receive a formal invitation. If you send someone a save the date and they notify you that they can’t make it, you don’t need to send them an invitation. Unless it is a very close friend or family member that would like to have it as a keepsake.




Response Cards


Your “respond by” date for your response cards should be 4-6 weeks before your wedding date. This will give you 2-3 weeks to follow up with the stragglers who didn’t respond and get your final guest count to your caterer by their deadline.