Paper Etiquette

There are so many ins and outs of wedding stationery etiquette. We frequently get asked many of these questions, so below you will find a list of the most common questions and answers to help guide you through your invitation process. Click one of the titles below to expand for more information. If there are any questions that aren’t answered here, feel free to email us at daisyprintcompany@gmail.com.

Invitations


Wedding invitations should be sent out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. If you’re planning on having a destination wedding, or a wedding on a holiday weekend you should plan on sending them out at least 10-12 weeks in advance to allow your guests to plan for transportation and accommodations.




Save the Dates


Save the dates should be sent out so guests have a chance to prepare for travel and accommodations. They are usually sent out 9-12 months in advance. Every guest that receives a save the date needs to also receive a formal invitation. If you send someone a save the date and they notify you that they can’t make it, you don’t need to send them an invitation. Unless it is a very close friend or family member that would like to have it as a keepsake.




Response Cards


Your “respond by” date for your response cards should be 4-6 weeks before your wedding date. This will give you 2-3 weeks to follow up with the stragglers who didn’t respond and get your final guest count to your caterer by their deadline.





Timing

Invitation Wording

Hosting Information


When wording your invitation there are several different options depending on your situation. See some below samples for the most commonly used options: [ Married Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Divorced/Remarried Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
and
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew James Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Bride and Groom Hosting with Family ] Together with their families
Sarah Elizabeth Robinson
and
William David Kennedy
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage




Adult Only Reception


If you prefer your reception to be adults only, there are a few ways to tactfully handle wording. Proper etiquette would start with who you addressed the envelope to. If the children’s names weren’t included, it would be assumed they’re not invited. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this. You can have a small line included on your invitation that simply says “adult reception following”. If you are still worried that some of your guests may not catch on, you can include a line on your response card that let’s you fill in the number of people you have invited for that household. “We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor.”





Postage

Hosting Information


When wording your invitation there are several different options depending on your situation. See some below samples for the most commonly used options: [ Married Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Divorced/Remarried Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
and
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew James Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Bride and Groom Hosting with Family ] Together with their families
Sarah Elizabeth Robinson
and
William David Kennedy
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage




Adult Only Reception


If you prefer your reception to be adults only, there are a few ways to tactfully handle wording. Proper etiquette would start with who you addressed the envelope to. If the children’s names weren’t included, it would be assumed they’re not invited. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this. You can have a small line included on your invitation that simply says “adult reception following”. If you are still worried that some of your guests may not catch on, you can include a line on your response card that let’s you fill in the number of people you have invited for that household. “We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor.”





Additional Wording

Invitations


Wedding invitations should be sent out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. If you’re planning on having a destination wedding, or a wedding on a holiday weekend you should plan on sending them out at least 10-12 weeks in advance to allow your guests to plan for transportation and accommodations.




Save the Dates


Save the dates should be sent out so guests have a chance to prepare for travel and accommodations. They are usually sent out 9-12 months in advance. Every guest that receives a save the date needs to also receive a formal invitation. If you send someone a save the date and they notify you that they can’t make it, you don’t need to send them an invitation. Unless it is a very close friend or family member that would like to have it as a keepsake.




Response Cards


Your “respond by” date for your response cards should be 4-6 weeks before your wedding date. This will give you 2-3 weeks to follow up with the stragglers who didn’t respond and get your final guest count to your caterer by their deadline.





Addressing

How Many to Order


When placing your invitation order you will want to make sure you are ordering one for each household and not per person, or you will end up ordering way more than you need. You will want to order 10-15 additional invitation sets on top of your final count. This will account for any last minute additions or any returned invitations for wrong addresses or for keepsakes.




Assembling and Envelopes


If you order wedding invitations that have backings or enclosures where the invitation needs to be adhered, this will be professionally done for you before they are given to you. However, if you choose to not have us stack and stuff them into the envelopes for you, here are some tips for assembling them yourself. You will want to stack them from largest to smallest with your invitation being on the bottom followed by any additional cards you may have, and then your response card placed on top of the response envelope on the top of the stack. You will then slide the whole set into your envelope facing up towards the back of the envelope so when your guests pull them out, they will be facing them.





Ordering and Assembly

Hosting Information


When wording your invitation there are several different options depending on your situation. See some below samples for the most commonly used options: [ Married Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Divorced/Remarried Parents of the Bride Hosting ] Mr. and Mrs. John Prescott Robinson
and
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew James Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Elizabeth
to
Mr. William David Kennedy [ Bride and Groom Hosting with Family ] Together with their families
Sarah Elizabeth Robinson
and
William David Kennedy
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage




Adult Only Reception


If you prefer your reception to be adults only, there are a few ways to tactfully handle wording. Proper etiquette would start with who you addressed the envelope to. If the children’s names weren’t included, it would be assumed they’re not invited. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this. You can have a small line included on your invitation that simply says “adult reception following”. If you are still worried that some of your guests may not catch on, you can include a line on your response card that let’s you fill in the number of people you have invited for that household. “We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor.”





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